That way, you both have time to give into your guilty tech pleasures in a way that doesn't harm your marriage. But if you find that you truly are hashing out the same issue all the time, it's worth sitting down and getting to the root of the problem. W., a couples counselor and author of You're not alone: Channing Tatum admitted that his wife, Jenna Dewan Tatum, wasn't always happy with his alcohol-guzzling habits.
A marriage meeting with you, a bottle of wine, and a chance to talk interruption-free that focuses on something specific—say, feeling overwhelmed by the kids' schedules or the fact that vacation planning brings up some financial insecurities—can help, says Bob Taibbi, L. But watch what you're sipping as well—one study found that married women drink more than their single friends.
But following his lead, especially when you're both stressed, may not be a bad idea.
In fact, studies have found that video games in particular can cause problems—butonly if they affect everyday routines.
Have a conversation about screen time and establish some guidelines—maybe it's no phones until after the kids are in bed, or promising to put all tech away a half hour before your own bedtime routine. No matter what the disagreement is, every couple has a few that seem to come up repeatedly. A study from Florida State University found that "angry but honest" conversations can help marriages because they stop complaints from festering.
Orlando, a relationship expert and author of And remember, chores don't need to be divided down the middle to be equal.
If he excels at dinner prep but isn't so great at getting the kids ready in the a.m., it may be easier if you take on that project solo with the understanding that he'll have food on the table after work.
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If your computer savvy I'm sure you can get around it but for the most part its better than nothing.The best way to ensure your husband pulls his weight is to be specific about what you want—kid cleanup, dinner prep, laundry loading—and let him do it his way."If you stand over him, telling him how to do everything, he'll back off because it'll seem like it's easier to just let you handle it," says Charles J.In 2013, men spent almost 10 hours per week on chores, while women spent 18.Although that's an improvement from the '60s when men devoted four hours to women's 30-plus, the discrepancy is still annoying—and exhausting.Because of that, favorite movies, toys, or friends' names can sometimes be subconsciously dismissed as irrelevant information.